Children of narcissistic parents spend a great deal of time trying to figure out how to serve their parent’s needs. When (not if) the child comes up short, there is hell to pay. Shame, anxiety, and self hatred are just a few of the resulting injuries. As adults, these people tend to engage in chaotic and toxic relationships, fail to make their needs a priority, and have poor boundaries. After all, they were trained to be this way by the parent who was impossible to please, easy to anger, and whose needs always came first.
Psychotherapy can help the adult child recognize their own emotional and behavioral patterns associated with the unhealthy parent-child relationship. When the adult child gains insight on how their past and present are connected, they can begin the progress of healing and reclaiming their sense of self as their own. New boundaries can be set within relationships, a sense of control can be gained, and validation to oneself can be granted. This is tough work and I am here to help navigate this dark and dense web with you.
If you are the child of a parent who had narcissistic characteristics and you are struggling to make heads or tails of your past and present, feel free to contact me for a phone consultation to see if I can be of help to you.